How to Mend the Pieces to a Broken Marriage

By: Shontell Magee - Dolliole M.A., LLC-S, NCC

Many couples struggle to pick up the broken pieces in their pulseless marriage. Many couples have a hard time admitting they have any issues in their relationship, and the problem is hidden and tucked away. They are hidden under a layer of frustration, a sexless marriage, mistrust, guilt, and sadness. Does this sound like your relationship?

Admit that that your relationship is in trouble

Being in denial is a psychological defense against facing "uncomfortable truths" in your relationship.

Denial is a way to deal with difficult situations by avoiding responsibility for your actions, changing bad habits, or causing communication to break down. Either you or your partner might be in denial to deal with difficult situations.

The problems are evident, but it might be easier to ignore them than face each other head-on.

10 Reason to Seek Marriage Counseling

Couples experience struggles in their relationship and go to therapy for various reasons. Sometimes, it is to deal with something from the past, something currently happening, or prepare for the future.

Whatever the reason you and your spouse are going to counseling, realize that it is a significant step toward demonstrating that you care about the relationship and you are not in denial that you need help!

Couples frequently seek counseling when they are experiencing:

 1. There has been a change in how you and your partner talk to each other.

2. Sexless marriage or sex life has changed a lot from how it used to be.

3. A bad experience from the past keeps you or your partner from moving on. You or your partner can't seem to let go of the past.

4. You and your partner are often at odds over the same things.

5. All too often, you and your family disagree with each other about money and finances.

6. There are apparent disagreements about how to care for or raise the kids.

7. You think of the other person as an enemy instead of your partner.

8. You're keeping some secrets, or maybe you're afraid to talk about them.

9. You or your partner is not giving each other affection as a punishment.

10. You are having an affair or thinking about having one.

Right now, you may be asking yourself:

Is marriage counseling effective?

Will it be effective for you?

I'm sure you have a million questions on your mind. But if you can relate to one or more of the above, it might be time you schedule an appointment.